You Ugly Fat Cow

In my career as a personal trainer, I once had a client who came to me because she felt “awful all over” and wanted to lose some weight. As we began to work together, I noticed something curious about her: she called herself “Ugly Fat Cow.”

Every time she saw herself in my wall-to-wall mirror, she would point her chin to the mirror and say, “you ugly fat cow!” Probably three times a session. Or maybe more.

“You ugly fat cow.” She believed it.

“You ugly fat cow.” She thought it.

“You ugly fat cow.” She said it.

No matter how hard she worked, her weight never changed. No matter how little she ate, her weight never changed. Would you like to know why? Because in her mind, she was an ugly fat cow. It’s as simple as that.

As I gained her confidence, I began to talk to her about her thoughts and her speech.  She fought me hard on it. It was excruciatingly painful for both of us. Eventually, we got to the place where she was forbidden to say “you ugly fat cow.”

She started to feel a bit better. Eventually, she began to believe that her thoughts matter. And she agreed to work not only with her speech, but with her thoughts as well.

She changed her mind about herself. She changed her thoughts. She felt better about herself. And as if by magic, her body changed.


Life happens from the inside out, never the other way around. My client quest for weight loss was futile until she changed her thoughts.

We have a tendency to believe our own thoughts. They drive us. They shape our future. I like to say it this way, “the story on the inside becomes the reality on the outside.”


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