What Makes this Single Daily Habit so powerful?

Ever since I started to coach myself, thought downloads have been the most powerful tool that I use daily.

When I did my research to give you more information on it, I could not find one single article on the subject–which was totally amazing to me because this practice completely revolutionized my life.

So all you get is my own definition:

A thought download is a simple exercise in which you put on paper what is going on in your mind.

  • All you need for a thought download (TDL for short) is a journal or a simple piece of paper. Don’t use a computer, actual cursive writing is much more powerful. Also, don’t fall into the trap of wanting to make your TDL fancy; actually, the simpler, the better. If you write in a fancy journal, you might find yourself to find the right words, and make it pretty, etc., thus missing out on the point of the exercise.

 

  • A TDL can be focused, targeting a single subject, or it can be a simple stream of consciousness thing. Most days, I make mine a simple stream of consciousness.

This is what a TDL looks like: you sit down, grab a piece of paper and start writing. That is it!

Either set a timer for five minutes or plan to fill the entire sheet with words. I personally just get started and write until my mind feels like it dumped it all out.

This is a literal Thought Download: I download on paper what is going on in my head.

At times, it looks like this:

I don’t know what to write. I am hungry. Today is a busy day and I intend to do it well. So looking forward to…”

At other times, it might look like this:

“Today, I feel upset. I think that I need to process this difficult conversation I had with Anne last night. It feels like she is judging me, and I find myself wanting to judge her for judging me…”

There is no right way of doing a TDL.

There is no wrong way of doing a TDL.

Thought Downloads are extremely powerful because they simply point us to what is actually going on on the inside of us. Putting it down on paper has a way of revealing to us what we really think.

As we write our thoughts down, we process them. We discover that we do or don’t like what is going on in our heads, and we begin to make a plan to change it if necessary.

It’s almost like magic.

And once you are done, you can feel free to destroy your piece of paper. The work is done!

Try it today and let me know how you like it!

 

Being intentional about our thought life is the work we are doing here at Barbara Isaac Coaching.

Join me for a free mini-session where I can help you with your thought life. Or go ahead and sign up for my SIX WEEKS TO A HAPPY MIND course. It’s affordable, and it will literally change your life.

 

Why Would Anyone do the Work of Self-Coaching? Part 5

Last installment of this series on the power of self-coaching!

By now, we understand that if we want to feel better and enjoy our lives, we have to learn to coach ourselves, taking responsibility for our own thought life.

Self-coaching involves thought work on three levels:

  1. Recognize the thoughts that are going on in our minds
  2. Learn how to dismantle useless neuro-pathways
  3. Build new healthy useful neuro-pathways

We lightly tackled #1 last week.

Self-coaching involves learning how to dismantle useless neuro-pathways:

This isn’t a job that can be done overnight.

The nonconscious neuro-pathways inside of our brain are strong and have been entertained for quite a while. It will take time and deliberate work to dismantle them, but it is so worth it. 

The process is an actual scientific process that takes roughly10 minutes a day for 21 days.

I have developed a few programs to help you do just that,  and you can check them out here and here. There, you will learn to coach yourself using the Model, and you will discover which thoughts need to go and which ones need to be created.

You can sign up anytime and start your own process of self-coaching into freedom. 

But here is a question you may want to know the answer to: 

Self-coaching involves creating new thoughts without changing our circumstance.

How do we bridge the gap?

 

The answer is simple, and yet takes an entire life to practice and master it:

We have to learn to think thoughts on purpose.

Here is how the process works:

  • Awareness with compassion: our current Model creates our current result. Once we understand the current Model, we can change it in order to get different results. 
  • Focus on the possibility of a different thought THAT WE BELIEVE, even if it involves discomfort.  Two keys here:
  1. We always, always have to have integrity with ourselves;
  2. We reframe a circumstance by developing a new thought. 
  • Practice this new thought 

There are lots of tools available to us to make this happen, but it really boils down to

  1. repetition
  2. practice
  3. consciousness

When we begin this journey, we think we aren’t good at coaching ourselves, but it’s really just like learning to drive a car–we can’t blame the car for our inability to drive well. We can’t blame ourselves either—we just haven’t practiced often enough yet.

Most of us are willing to be delighted by the hope that we can do it someday, but not willing to do the practice required to have the skill to manage our thoughts.

We have to show up and do it, and then we will have the results.

Self-coaching must be a daily process so you get good at it.

The best news is that, once you learn to coach yourself, you always have a way to deal with whatever is going on in your mind on a daily basis. You will begin to see that yesterday’s actions, your past, or today’s situation isn’t what is making you feel sad, depressed or happy today.

Your thoughts make you feel what you feel today.

And it is your God-given right to change your thoughts!

 

I hope you got a lot out of these last five blog posts. It could be the beginning of an amazing change in your life. Make sure you share this information with the people you care about.

If you want help in beginning to coach yourself, just tell me in the comments and I will be there for you!

For now, if you want more info on the beautiful way we were created and how we can use our thoughts to change our lives, go ahead and sign up for the FREE email course on Thought Creation. Life-changing if you apply it!