What Should You Think When the World Is Going Haywire?

Is the craziness in our world affecting you? And what can you do about it?

I don’t know if you’ve heard the news lately, but it’s pretty bad out there. And like it or not, we humans are interconnected forever, even when we don’t choose to be. We all have the very same Creator, the very roots, down to our very first mother and father. Throughout the miles in the world and the centuries, we are family somehow.

So when horrible tragedies happen, it affects us. We can close our eyes and our ears and stick our heads in the sand, but it still affects us.

The best way to handle tragedies is to deal with them.

But the crazy thing is, a tragedy isn’t a tragedy until we label it so.

What????

Yes, you heard me right.

A shooting is just a fact.

The reason it troubles us is because of the thoughts we have about it.

“Being troubled” about a shooting is absolutely normal and I would even say it’s a good response. But let’s not be confused and assume that the trouble comes from the shooting; the trouble comes from our thoughts about the shooting.

And I can prove it to you:

If being troubled was the only human response to the shooting, why isn’t everyone troubled? Why is the group that ordered the shooting celebrating? Same answer here: because of their thought about it. To them, it is a success. To us, it is a tragedy.

It all comes down to their thoughts and our thoughts.

I know I am ruffling many feathers here, but it is the truth. This is exactly how God wired us: we respond to a situation with thoughts that bring about feelings.

So, in the midst of any circumstance, down to what we call a tragedy, we have a choice. We can choose what to think and how to feel. We can absolutely feel outraged and sad and frustrated and angry; but this is our choice.

Here is my little bit of help to you:

When faced with a circumstance that triggers violent feelings inside of you, take a minute to stop and recognize those feelings. Don’t judge them as good or bad, just look at them and ask: What are they? Where do they come from? What thought am I holding that brings about those feelings?

As you become a watcher of your thoughts, you creates a pause in which you can look at what’s going on in your mind and ask these three insightful questions.

 

1. Is this thought serving me?

Keep in mind that a negative thought can totally serve you in the moment. When someone I love dies, I want to think that it is terribly sad, I want to grieve. Make sure you like your reason for holding on to a thought.

2. Do I really want this thought?

Is this a thought that I want to hold inside of my brain?

3. Is this current or outdated?

Is this a thought that I am thinking out of habit or do I really adopt it as mine today in this current situation? If it is not current, why do you sense resistance in letting it go?

Answer these honestly, and decide where you want to go from here. You might want to embrace it fully. Or you might want to decide you want to say good-bye to that thought and create another one. This will create space for new thinking, and you will not live at the effect of decisions you made in the past.

It’s your choice.

It’s your life.

 

This is the kind of work we are doing at Spirit-led Coaching. It’s fascinating and life-changing!  If you would like some help in figuring out how to change your thoughts in a particular situation, book a free mini-session with me; or sign up for my SIX WEEKS TO A HAPPY MIND course. It’s affordable and literally will change your life experience. Either way, I’d love to help you!

 

 

Would Changing Something Make You Feel Better?

 

It’s amazing to me that we will change just about anytthing in an attempt to feel better. We’ll get a new haircut or/and new clothes, change our job, buy a new car, house or patio furniture, go see a movie, even move or change spouse.

Yet in the long run, how we look, where we live, what we have, who we hang out with, what we do doesn’t change us on the inside. It may make us feel better for a moment, a week or a month, but it will never, ever sustain the “happy” feeling in us in the long run.

And what’s crazy is, we know it!

In this short blog post, I am going to show you that it is possible to change how you feel, but it might not happen the way you think it will. The truth is so simple, yet so difficult to accept for most of us: what creates how we feel is not the stuff or people around us, but what we are thinking.

We don’t feel bad because we live in a small appartment, we feel bad because of our thought about the fact that we live in a small appartment.

We aren’t unhappy because of our job or a difficult boss, we feel unhappy because of our thoughts about our job or difficult boss.

And that’s really very good news, because God created us with the ability to choose our thoughts.

The problem is that when it comes to questioning or changing our thoughts, we think that it is an impossible task. We believe that it’s just the way we are, and our thoughts are not up for discussion.

The irony is, changing our thoughts is the only thing that will actually make us feel better.

What if we really could decide to think about our small appartment, our job or our boss in a way that serves us?

What if we could ask ourselves what feeling we need in order to do well in any situation, and then figure out what thought we need to create in order to have that feeling?

What if we allow people be who they are and change our thoughts about them instead of trying to change them?

If we want to feel better, we have to be open to looking at our thoughts and question them.

Where to begin? Just right here, right now.

What are your thoughts about your current situation? What are you telling yourself that your situation means? Your situation itself is neutral–it carries no feelings with it. Your interpretation of it is what causes you harm.

And that’s the absolute truth. Change your interpretation, and you will change your life experience!

 

This is the kind of work we are doing at Spirit-led Coaching. It’s fascinating and life-changing!  If you would like some help in figuring out how to change your thoughts in a particular situation, book a free mini-session with me; I’d love to help you!