Victims feel defenseless.
Victims are at the mercy of what happens.
We feel and therefore act like a victim as soon as we relinquish our power to people and situation.
Last week, we touched on the fact that facts are neutral until we give it meaning. Only then does the drama start.
What if I told you that nothing on earth can make you feel like a victim?
What if I told you that no facts on earth can make you feel like a victim unless you choose to give it that meaning?
“He made me feel small” is a lie.
Here is the truth: no one can make you feel anything.
All of your feelings are the result of your thoughts.
You never, ever feel small because of what someone did or said; you feel small because of the thought you are having about his word or actions.
The distinction is vital: as long as it is all about his words and actions, you are stuck. But when it becomes about your thought about his word and action, we take our power back.
“I got fired; it’s simply not fair” is a thought that strips you of our power.
It’s a victim-mentality kind of thought.
It makes you feel like you are the victim of a system when, in reality, you are completely in charge of our own lives.
You have the privilege of choosing your thoughts.
You could choose: “I now can move on,” or “this job wasn’t good for me,” or “I am glad that God will provide.” Any of these thoughts will produce feelings of empowerment and peace, which will, in turn, drive useful actions.
“Victim Mentality” syndrome is never a situation issue.
“Victim Mentality” syndrome is always a thought issue.
And that is the best news because God has given you the ability to choose our thoughts.
Your choice of thoughts creates everything that you call life.
What are you going to choose in your situation? Let us know in the comments! And make sure to share this with your friends who might need it.
Being intentional about our thought life is the work we are doing at Barbara Isaac Coaching.